Here's how most of my initial consulting sessions begin:
Client: "Why is my social media not working?"
Me: "You really wanna know?"
Client: "…Yes."
Me: "Okay." pulls hair back
You're not creating content. You're making announcements.
You're not building a community. You're shouting into the void.
You're not joining conversations. You're waiting for likes and NEW followers that never come.
Social doesn't fail because of the algorithm. It fails because businesses are using it like a megaphone, when it's meant to be a group chat.
But Social is NOT a brochure or billboard. It is humans following humans.
Here's where this group chat philosophy gets interesting: we live in an attention economy, but most people are competing for attention the wrong way. They're trying to be the loudest voice in the room instead of the most interesting person at the party.
The group chat philosophy changes everything. In a group chat, you're not performing for strangers. You're contributing to a conversation with people who already know, like, and trust you. You share random thoughts, ask questions, offer help, and yes—sometimes you mention what you're working on. But it's natural, contextual, and welcome because the relationship already exists.
The group chat is where the people you are ignoring who have already chosen to follow you, want to hear from you. But instead you are out there ”creating content” seeking more NEW people to not connect with.
Do you see the cycle?
I recently saw The Materialists and not only was I validated in my thoughts of how shallow we've all become, but also when Dakota chats with a bunch of single women at a wedding (she's a matchmaker) she nails this group chat philosophy part of marketing herself.
Basically her pitch is: you can do this on your own but if you're lucky enough to be able to afford me, why not? Because she's a luxury good.
She’s at a wedding, aka the group chat with the right people.
(Most of you here are luxury goods. Your services or products are not needed for basic human survival.)
When you understand you're a luxury good, you stop making announcements trying to convince everyone and start attracting someone. You stop broadcasting features and start embodying values. You stop chasing metrics and start building relationships.
Group chats are dialed in with the right people. They aren't for anyone. They are for specific people for specific reasons.
Think about it: the most valuable group chats in your life aren't the ones with 500 people where no one really talks. They're the ones with 5-10 people who genuinely care about each other's lives, businesses, and random 2am thoughts.
It's time to stop broadcasting announcements and instead start conversations. Your people will always find you. In fact, one of your people is praying to find you and what you offer right now.
Keep showing up.